In my past blogs I’ve talked a lot about allowing yourself to be selfish and to edit out the negative and make sure you’re happy. But what happens when the people who would make us happy don’t feel the same way about us? It’s a tough lesson to learn and a gutting feeling to have to experience, no matter your age.
We all have at least one friend who goes after the one person that just isn’t interested. They can’t get the message through their heads, or they just ignore it. I have been this person. I think we all have, if we’re completely honest with each other.
What is it about the desire we possess to change someone’s mind (and heart) toward us? Why can’t we confront rejection and shrug our shoulders and move on? In my past, I began to notice when a guy would not like something about me, I would just try to change it (which always worked so well…not.) I was so exhausted trying to put on this perfect facade to have this person’s approval that I wasn’t even happy anymore.
I adore the quote, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” –Dita Von Teese. Why do any of us even want to be with someone who doesn’t like us? Humans are weird. When we do find the person we’re meant to be with, they won’t ever make us question ourselves, or cause us to be insecure.
All of this to say, even though it sucks and it’s painful and incredibly hard to do, we ALL need to move on from anyone that rejects us. Stay friends or whatever, but recognize that a relationship won’t benefit you in the long run.
Keep in mind that if someone actually does want to be with you, they will be. Schedules, friends, family: I don’t care what the excuse is, nothing will stand in their way. People on different continents make it work.
If someone wants to be with you, you won’t ever have to question it. You’ll just know. Don’t ever beg someone to be with you. Desperation is not appealing, and it won’t end well. Move forward and on to bigger and better things. You deserve it.